fat

Why is it that when u r fat - like I am - people feel the need to tell u that u have lost weight whenever they see u? As if that is the compliment or comment u need, or look forward to?

They probably think its something nice to say or something complimentary but since I am a contrary person I find it.... wrong. As if we cannot possibly be happy looking the way we do and therefore need to b told that hope is there and that we r getting towards looking more "normal".

Of course I'm not being hateful or bitter. If I have genuinely lost weight I do not mind someone complimenting it or my hard work in achieving the result. But being fat does not mean being unhappy and it does not equal being more unfulfilled that anyone else. Yet this is the implication in many minds.

Why? Why does society think that Fat=Unhappy? Admittedly, this is the case for a lot of people, but this is usually due to bullying, image consciousness and peer pressure.
Why is it perceived as if only thin people can have fun? I have tons of fun, and dont let my "fatness" get in my way - ask my friends.

One of my friends mum, everytime she sees me tells me I have lost weight. Honestly, if I had lost as much weight as she claims I have I'd have winked out of existence ages ago!


I think that as long as u r healthy and happy - thats all that matters. I know that no matter what most people say they do NOT agree with this statement. Not really.
They wanna look GOOD. Good enough to grab ppl's attention and be noticed. Ego stroking as this is, its incredibly superficial.

To be liked for how ur skin falls over your flesh and bones.... where's the worth in that???Looks fade. They change. They can be altered. How is that then a reliable way of judging someone?

I have known people who at first glance do not amount to much but once you get to know them, they are beautiful but their beauty is not the kind that the eyes see.

That is how I'd like to be beautiful. The kind of beauty people remember u for; kindness, generosity, softness, gentleness, beauty of spirit, Iman, tawakul.... these are attributes people remember once a person is long gone. These are characteristics people remember my mother for. And it is how I'd like to be remembered - because at the end of the day, these matter.

But lets be honest, if I can look good and be all of these things.... then all the better! lol