I recently had to grow up and start thinking about at least one part of my future as something imminent (and really scary!). The whole experience made me realised that there are just some things in life that are so freakin scary... things I have no idea how to cope with.
For Example, one of my bestest friends, WhiteAfrican, joined the realms of the married women of the world. I was so happy for her because she had found - or been found by (depends on who u ask) - a really really nice guy. Seriously.... u can ask her (!) but guys like that are not an easy find. Sisters often despair of ever finding the right guy and will settle. Well our Whitey didnt settle and Alhamdulillah, Allah rewarded her patience and faith with our Manny.
But how exactly do girls decide who is the one for them?!??!?! This is a question that bugs me - and has done for a long time now.
how do u know that this one is the one?!? yes u do Istikhara and all that but still doubts must still abound and marriage being such a HUGE and IMMENSE decision - u cannot enter into it lightly.
So how do u take that final leap - faith? close ur eyes and jump? or a mixture of the 2?
I would guess that u take one step at a time and make sure u know the person as best u can - make sure, as much as u can, that he or she will fulfill, at the very least, their Islamic duties towards u.
Love comes later... right? :-)
But ever since the day of my first Rishta offer on the freaked out day when I turned 18 I have been avoiding this - I mean, marriage.... sounds great but............. woah!
And another thing - why do people chew with their mouths open?! its disgusting. Stop it!
oh and what happens if a bearded man pops a big chewing gum bubble all over - how does he deal with it?? ew!
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