Why do things that happened in our childhood affect us so much?
When we were kids, we actually had very little control over ourselves, nevermind over our lives. Our parents dressed us how they liked (bitter, bitter memories Mother!), and took us where they liked. Yet some events in our childhood leave an indelible mark on us; one we can never, even if we try, escape from.
Memories that crowd my head from my childhood, and no doubt influence much of my character and behaviour in the present. Memories of places, clothes, toys..... random, fragmented images in my head. Some happy, some sad, some really mean (what were my parents thinking?!).... a whole variety.
If just one of those events hadn't happened in my childhood would I be a completely different person? Would my entire life, my entire character, my personality change??? Would I be the same person? Believe in the same things?
Our memories and our experience shape us and make us who we are - good or bad, they are an integral part of our very fibre.
Which is a scary idea right? The fact that every second, every milli-second in your life has led you up this very moment - reading my very boring, bad blog (see the alliteration?!lol)!
That if my mother hadn't dressed me in that hideous, baby pink, flu-flu dress when I was 4 or 5 (or whenever) I wouldn't be sat here, typing this. I'd be doing something else, maybe I wouldn't even be alive, or maybe I'd have some amazing high rolling job, or maybe I'd be ruling the WORLD (mwahahaha!).... ok maybe not.
But your get my point right?!
So.... in order to move forward.... I'm going to have to accept my past. Good and bad.
Point is... how do I do that? And how do I know I have done it? I mean, maybe I have done it....
"When Allah decreed the Creation He pledged Himself by writing in His book which is laid down with Him: My Mercy prevails over My Wrath" Hadith (Muslim; al-Bukhari)
2 comments:
Assalaamu 'alaykum sis
Teek taak?
You make a very interesting point. My cousin was once telling me about a book he read, in which a boy travelled to the past and accidently stood on a butterfly. When he returned to the future, there was no such thing as a butterfly. People had never heard of them. To them, they had never existed; the had become extint long ago.
The moral of the story?
The butterfly he stepped on was the super-fertile butterfly which was destined to reproduce an unprecedented and incomparable amount of times.
Only joking!
The point was that such a small, seemingly insignificant event, changed the whole course of history.
So yes, the past effects us in ways we can never contemplate, imagine or know. It is good to evaluate our past to a degree, in order to better ourselves, but not to dwell on it.
So accept it, and move on.
The good things that have happened are a blessing.
But the bad things...if you learn from them and make yourself better from them...they are a major blessing too.
And you know that Allah (SWT) Tests those whom He loves :-)
Yeh but.... its scary..
If I ever have kids, what if I accidentally emotionally scar them for life???
I still can't stand flu-flu for example!
Post a Comment